Self-Compassion

“If we find ourselves unworkable and give up on ourselves, then we’ll find others unworkable and give up on them. What we hate in ourselves, we’ll hate in others. To the degree that we have compassion for ourselves, we will also have compassion for others.”  Pema Chödrön  

  • What is Self-Compassion?

    • Being understanding and kind to yourself through mistakes and failures

    • Having similar thoughts about yourself during times of success and times of failure

    • The ability to acknowledge that times can be difficult, but you are capable of providing yourself comfort and care in those moments

    • Source of empowerment, knowledge, and inner competence

  • Components of Self-Compassion

    • Self-Kindness

      • Have patience with yourself and your actions, emotions, and thoughts

      • Know you are worthy of happiness no matter the circumstances

    • Common Humanity

      • Recognition of the connection that others go through suffering and personal failure

      • Feel united with others in the struggle of inadequacy with yourself or your performance

    • Mindfulness

      • Concentrate attention on the present moment and your ability to be open-minded about the feelings, experiences, and thoughts occurring

  • Benefits of being self-compassionate  

    • Decreased insecurities, anxiety, or self-critical mindsets

    • Failure is seen as a learning opportunity

    • Improved relationships with others

    • Decreased stress

    • Increased productivity and creativity